Reese’s Pieces Relationship Disasters
Solo Study /// Week 5 /// Brian Massey
One of the most iconic movies of all time is The Lion King. It is a beautiful and wonderful story full of fantastic music, narrative moments and characters that you love and that you hate. It has it all! It even had a great Sega Video Game. You know it’s good when that happens!
I think anyone who has ever seen the movie can all agree that there is a moment that tears out everyone’s heart: the moment Mufasa dies. This comes after the moment in which Mufasa goes down into harm's way to save his son. He had absolutely no hesitation and that there was no possible way that he would let any harm happen to his one and only son.
Despite his valiant efforts, Mufasa’s brother Scar, who was full of pride and jealousy let Mufasa fall to his death when he shoved him off the cliff. Simba watched in disbelief as his father fell to his end.
The next moment is the one that leaves everyone watching ugly crying. It’s the moment when Simba went to his lifeless father on ground. That interaction is just simply gut-wrenching. It is at that moment that Simba realizes that his Father is not coming back. His life will never be the same.
Scar then confronts Simba. He lies and blames Simba that it is indeed his fault that his Father is dead. He manipulates his young mind into believing this untruth. Simba then goes the next number of years believing this lie and running away to the wilderness and hiding from who he truly is: The King.
Then there is the “Rafiki” moment. Rafiki finds Simba in his wilderness and says, “I know who you are. You are Mufasa’s boy. Come let me show him to you.”
It is after that moment that Simba is reminded who he is when the Heavens open up to a spirit of his father who says these iconic words:
“Remember who are you. YOU ARE MY SON.”
It is in that moment that the pieces of his life that were scattered and into disarray are put back together.
No longer did Simba believe the lie that he was a nobody.
He was the one true king. He remembered his bloodline. He remembered his purpose.
He remembered who is He and what is meant and made to be.
You see, there are so many moments in our lives that leave us feeling in pieces. Most of those situations occur when we feel like we are out of control of the situation.
Through these experiences, some more traumatic than others, we allow ourselves to believe the lie that it is our fault and that we were the cause for it.
Now, sometimes we are the cause for the disarray or the current situation. In those cases and situations, we need to admit to and confess our mistakes and do what we talked about in Week 3 and use the “F” word. However, in those moments when it is out of our control, we must remember who we are.
We are the children of the one true King, Jesus.
“But you are God’s chosen treasure—priests who are kings, a spiritual “nation” set apart as God’s devoted ones. He called you out of darkness to experience his marvelous light, and now he claims you as his very own. He did this so that you would broadcast his glorious wonders throughout the world.”
(1 Peter 2:9 TPT)
When the blame comes.
When the lies and accusations rise against you.
When the shame and guilt arise.
That is the time that we remember whose we are and who He says we are.
Because I will tell you this, God does not blame, shame or guilt you.
Therefore it is important to guard your heart. To take every thought captive.
“So above all, guard the affections of your heart,
for they affect all that you are.
Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being,
for from there flows the wellspring of life.”
(Proverbs 4:23, TPT)
“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
(Philippians 4: 7-8, ESV)
Brokenness is a word that from the very beginning of time was a disease that spread throughout our world.
Brokenness occurred when there were literally two people on earth. It occurred when the one who came to Earth to save us and redeem us was put on a cross to die as a punishment, but instead died as a sacrifice. Therefore, there it should not be a surprise that it is still prevalent in our society today.
It is due to brokenness that it is so very vital, imperative and important for us to guard our heart. It is vital to focus on the things of God instead of the things of this world. It is important when the things in your life, especially your marriage or other relationships start to disintegrate into pieces that you do not fall back into those old habits or thoughts (the wilderness). Instead, you putting on the full armor of God:
“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.
Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.
In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”
(Ephesians 6: 10-17, NIV)
You see, it is ok to not be ok.
It is just not ok to stay that way.
“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
(Ephesians 4: 25-32, ESV)
When the pieces are not falling into place, do not sacrifice your self worth by falling and running away from God.
Instead operate out of a place of selflessness through worship, prayer, getting into God’s word and Community.
Trust God to pick up and put the pieces back together. He will make them better than before.
Trust Him. HE IS ABLE.
If you were to have a reality check and x-ray of your heart of hearts right now, what would you find? A puzzle that is put together? One that’s organized, but still needs some work? One where the pieces are all over? Or would you still be in the box, collecting dust on the shelf because you are too nervous, overwhelmed or unsure of where to start?
Reflect on this quote: “You are a subculture of the culture in which you surround yourself.”
Describe the culture that you best associate with.
Is it lifegiving or lifetaking?
In what areas of your life do you need to surrender and trust God to take control?